Long distance relationships have had a bad reputation, lets face it. Lonely nights, creeping doubts and jealousy can certainly poison a previously flourishing close-distance relationship.
But long distance relationships are happening more and more, due to differing career lifestyles or difficult living situations. The age of the internet has brought about an era of online dating, sexting and raunchy Skype escapades that make even transatlantic separation comfortably bearable.
"Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is often recited to new lovers embarking on their first LDR, but living away from your partner can also make you grow as an individual too. Having time to yourself can make you evaluate your relationship and think about what you value in the person you are having a LDR with.
Since I am currently in a LDR myself (we see each other once every two to three weeks) I thought I should impart some nifty little tips for those of you out there who are also in a similar, solitary situation.
♥ Utilize social media to communicate! I cannot stress this enough. Skype is a particular blessing for LDRs, since it gives you that special face-time, but Facebook, Twitter and mobile contact are all just as useful for maintaining a bond. You can also use multiplayer video gaming sessions to reinforce your bonds, unless either you or your significant other is an angry gamer..!
♥ Arrange a time when you can speak to each other. Of course this will take some planning if you live in different time zones or have a busy work schedule, but the task is not insurmountable!
♥ Enjoy the time you DO have together! Maybe go on a romantic walk together or have a lovely dinner at a restaurant after a trip to the cinema. If you are strapped for cash, a simple night indoors watching a film will certainly suffice, as will doing a sporty activity together or even indulging each other in a massage session! Any of these activities can reaffirm your love for each other. Get creative!
♥ Trust is vital. If you don't know your relationship well enough to continue believing in it, then your long distance relationship will definitely be a bust. Honest and open communication is required when you do get in contact. AND NEVER ACCUSE YOU PARTNER OF BEEN UNFAITHFUL. All this does is introduce suspicion and doubt, so keep any dark, jealous thoughts under control! If you want to talk about insecurities you may have, do it calmly and thoughtfully.
♥ Though you will want to speak with him/her constantly, you really need to give your partner space. Avoid the temptation to control where your partner is and what they are doing in order to speak to you. The funny thing is, you can completely smother a person even if you do live miles apart! Let them do their own thing, even if it means not talking for a day or two.
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